Changes

**In homage to the title of this blog post, I’ve realized 22 days into my commitment to write 10 blog posts for October that I underestimated how long each post would take. Therefore, I’ll be adjusting my promise to complete the 10 blog posts by the end of November.**

How do we handle change when it’s thrust upon us, and how do we navigate it when we intentionally choose the change? In my experience, as both a person undergoing change and as a coach guiding others through it, I’ve observed that we commonly encounter certain emotional states. These states are not linear; rather, they form an iterative process where we may revisit them multiple times to gain deeper insights into ourselves and our circumstances.
​One significant aspect of change is the element of grief. We often face disappointment when our life circumstances differ from our expectations and dreams. This gap between how we believe life should be and the reality we experience can be challenging. Another crucial state is the need to release our attachment to the familiar, allowing ourselves to step into the unknown. This process involves letting go of our sense of control over what we’ve known and accepting the present

​Accepting our current reality is crucial for making a pivot. If we resist this acceptance, we can become paralyzed by our fears, resentment, and bitterness. This emotional turmoil can inhibit our ability to see possibilities and take the necessary steps forward. When change is thrust upon us or when we choose it, we must confront the discomfort of the unknown. Failing to address these feelings can lead us to feel stuck, bitter, or resistant to the lessons that change can offer.
In my personal journey, I’ve grappled with the dual elements of control and acceptance. It’s essential to recognize how we react to unmet expectations—whether we internalize regret, blame ourselves or others, or remain fixated on bitterness over our circumstances. Often, we may not realize we’re stuck until we find ourselves in that state. However, if we pay attention, we can sense when we’re grappling with the unknown, that can invoke fear and discomfort.

In conclusion, navigating change—whether it is imposed upon us or self-chosen—requires a willingness to confront our emotions, release our attachments, and embrace the unknown. By giving ourselves space, patience, and self-compassion to identify these challenges we face and seeking ways to overcome them, we can transform our experiences into opportunities for growth and insight.




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